THE Holy Bible says, “He who finds a wife, has found favour from God.”When the wife of Jide disclosed to him that she was the Juliet divinely made for him as wife during a church service in 2006, he thought he had indeed found favour from God.
Without doubting the supposed Holy Spirit speaking through the woman, the man endorsed the lady instantly only to regret later. As if the woman used magic on the man of God, the two of them suddenly became husband and wife, though the woman had denied using deceit or magic to marry the man.
Two children who are products of the collapsed marriage, are the victims of the deceit. Their plight has elicited reactions from a non-governmental organisation, Child Growth Concerned Initiative (CGCI).
Jide 48, a minister of God told Sunday Tribune that he was invited to hold a week long crusade at Cherubim and Seraphim Church, Airport, Ibadan, on August 6, 2006, by the founder of the church.
According to him, on the first day of the crusade, a lady, Dupe, allegedly under the influence of the Holy Spirit instructed all worshippers in the church to wash their heads with special water provided by the church.
Jide continued: “The church’s founder told me that Dupe was her daughter and had not married before. She was staying in the mission house with the founder. Shortly before the crusade ended, Dupe was again caught by the Holy Spirit and remained under its influnce for seven days.
“The church’s founder, who knew that since my wife left me I had not re-married, advised me to re-marry. I wrote names of two girl friends of mine on a paper for the Holy Spirit to pick the right choice for me.
“Speaking through an interpreter, Dupe, who was being used by the Holy Spirit, did not pick from the list, instead she said she was the one specially ordained for me by God.
“It was a surprise to me. I complied with what the Holy Spirit had said. Without any ceremony, she moved into my house at Oluyole Estate, Ibadan, immediately she was released by the Holy Spirit.
“It was when she got to my house that I realised I was her third husband. She bore a child for the first husband before they separated. She had a stillbirth for the second husband, fought him and later left him.
Jide, who accused Dupe of being heady and stubborn, said he did not enjoy sex with her throughout the period they were together until he sent her packing in 2008.
He said: “Each time we had sexual relationship, I usually had ill-luck in my business.”
“It was when I investigated the cause spiritually that I was told that Dupe had disappointed many men and they had cursed her.
“The period that she was in my house was like a hell to me. She was quarrelsome and made life difficult for me. I became wretched, my business went down. I realised that she deceived me into marrying her. As far as I know, Dupe is not a wife but a devil.
“On the two children she had for me, I told her to open a bank account for them so that I could deposit money in it for their education and upkeep, but she refused. I don’t want to see her again.
“She lied against my first son from my first marriage. She said that the boy made love advances to her. She did this so that I could eject the boy from my house. She had wanted to treat the boy like a slave, but the boy refused.”
However, Dupe in a reaction, asked, “If he did not enjoy having sex with me, why did he ask for it on the day we christened my second child? He beat and kicked me because I refused to submit to his sexual demand.
“He lied by saying that I deceived him into marrying me. He concocted the story of the Holy Spirity to disparage me.
“We met in 2006 at the church. I delivered my first child in July 2007. The problem with my husband started immediately after the delivery of my first child. Jide began to womanise, he preferred to spend more time outside to staying in the house with me. He was always coming home late.
“I wondered why somebody, who called himself an elder in the church and a minister of God, could engage in such atrocities? He was not honest with me. Even while in the house, he would receive telephone calls from girl friends, discussing love issues and fixing appointments with them right in my presence.
“If I should complain, he would flare up. When I had the pregnancy of our second child, he got annoyed saying it was too sudden and that he was not expecting it.
“Each time I asked for money to buy food, he would get annoyed.I fled to my parents’ house several times to feed.
“One day, after beating me, he still went ahead to demand for sex, which I refused because he did not give me money for food.
“I am his third wife, though he had divorced them before he married me.
“He decided to leave me and my children when he started to befriend another woman at a Celestial Church in Mokola. The woman has four children for her former husband.
“Not that I want to go back to him, I don’t need him, but he should provide money for the education and upkeep of my children.”
Dupe said her estranged husband lied by saying he wanted to open a bank account for her children, saying he never meant well for them.
Worried by the plight of the children produced by the ‘Holy Spirit’ marriage, the Child Growth Concerned Initiative (CGCI) has sought to reconcile the estranged couple.
CGCI president, Mr Kehinde Akinyemi, told Sunday Tribune that his organisation had tried to organise meetings for the couple to dialogue on how to take care of the two children, adding that the man had on different occasions refused to honour the invitations. “The future of these children is very important to our organisation and should be a concern to all Nigerians. We are greatly disturbed on why the man should visit the sins of his wife on the innocent children,” Mr Akinyemi said.
Culled from : Nigerian Tribune.
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